It is said ❝Behind every successful man there’s a woman❞ ── .✦
In my opinion ⪼ It’s not about man or woman, nor about who is behind whom. It’s about relationship！ It’s about positive relationship. Or may I put it this way?
Behind every success, there’s a positive relationship── .✦ Does that sound ok? Just look around. Consider any success story. See what relationship is behind that success. It could be a father, a mother, a teacher, a friend, a sibling or any relation for that matter.
What does a positive relationship look like? I will not go by definitions I’ll give you some real-life examples. Just feel the positive vibes in the following snippets of conversations :
🌞A person in his forties tells me “I’m happiest when I make my mother happy.”
🌞A friend, who holds a B Tech degree from a premier institute and a plush job, tells me “Actually when I was in school all my friends were aspiring to get admission in to IIT. And the whole band got selected.” That’s interesting! Isn’t it?
🌞“I didn’t believe in myself but my husband did. So, I tried and to my surprise, I succeeded.” tells another.
🌞My elder sister told me when I failed in my first attempt and was ready to quit “You must take a second chance. I know you can make it.” “And, yes, I did.”
🌞A bright, young lady shared “The environment at my in-law’s was hostile. I survived because I had very good friends at my work place. So while I was in my office I forgot all the bitterness of my home.”
🌞“Though my mother passed away a few years ago, yet whenever a crisis stares me in the face, I feel she must be somewhere helping me the way she did when she was alive.” I heard a celebrity say on a talk show.
So what’s common in all these chats? Mutual respect, rejoicing each other’s success, care, acceptance, empathy, warmth, appreciation and acceptance. And that’s the hallmark of a positive relationship.
The above examples clearly corroborate PERMA Model designed by Marting Seligman, father of Positive psychology. According to this model there are five elements of wellbeing. And ‘Relationship’ is one of those elements.
Besides these examples, we ourselves can recall times when we survived and flourished thanks to some positive relationship. Think about those moments, those relationships. Memory of good events increases wellbeing and happiness.
With these thoughts I sign off. One mindful moment at a time ✨
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